Discover yourself

Post 6
Discover yourself
By Trafford R. Cole PsyD

For all of you who have just arrived at the this blog, go to post 1 and answer the self-test question before reading any further. Below is the answer to the test:

Coffee and coffee shops are linked to the adult world and adult relationships. How you answered the questions in this scenario tells us something about how you manage stress in your own adult relationships. So here goes:

The atmosphere you described is what you seek most in your workplace of school. Some thrive in a lively environment almost elbow to elbow with other people and others prefer quiet solitude. Which are you? Extrovert, introvert or in-between?
What you did while you waited for your cup of coffee is related to the major source of stress in your life. Did you sit and observe the other customers? You may be overly concerned about what others think, do or say. You feel observed by others – so stop worrying and just be yourself.
Instead you picked up a book or magazine and read while you were waiting. You are too passive about life. You need to act more – get out and do some physical activity.
You say and did nothing at all? You need more stimulation in your life. You are bored and need something to occupy your time
How did the coffee taste? The flavor and temperature correspond to the level of
stress that you needlessly create for yourself in life. Was it too hot or too cold,
lukewarm, too bitter of slightly burned? Why? In your dreams you can have
anything you want, why not at least treat yourself to a nice cup of coffee


For next week try this:
1)close your eyes and imagine an animal, any animal. Now write down all the characteristics that you associate with that animal. Done
2) close your eyes again and imagine an animal, any animal. What is the first animal that pops up in your mind. Write it down and write down the characteristics that you associate with it
3) Repeat again. Relax and think of an animal. Write down the first animal that pops up in your mind. Write down the characteristics.
It may happen that it is the same animal each time – this is OK

The solution next week.